To Sawyer on your first birthday,
Today you are one year old. I’m so excited and overwhelmed
by what you’ve already become at just a year old that I’m at a complete loss as
what to write. And I’m a writer. I could say that I love you so much that
even on your fussiest and most teething and non-napping days I still consider
myself the luckiest person on earth. I could say that when you flash me your
quick, yet deliberate toothsome smile when you’re learning something new or something’s
tickled you – I want to die. Right then and there. Go out on the highest of
highs. See ya, earth! I won at this shit!
I could say that when I watch you dig into my spice drawer
and pick out what strikes your fancy then crawl around with it like Tiny Tim on
all fours so astoundingly fast - ‘clack! – clack! – clack!’ - I have the most
morbid thought that if you just stayed that size the rest of your life, that
would be beyond cool with me.
But I need to tell you more. Having you added the onus of
wanting to be a better person myself. To set the best example I can for you. So
I started a list of some guiding principles that I now aspire to in my life. I
hope to drill them into you as much as myself. Thanks for that, Bubbas Bear.
Be kind.
To everyone - the
old and young, the strong and weak, the shiny and the lackluster, even those
who are unkind. The fact is nothing is more attractive on a human being than kindness.
Love with your whole heart.
It will get bruised
and broken along the way but try to keep it wide and open. Remember
to look for the light in others. And when someone shows you only
darkness, move on from them. The world is filled with
kind, loving, big hearted people. Don’t waste time on the rest.
Happiness is a hobby.
When you find what
makes you happy, stick with it. When I was six years old I was head over heels
in love with horses, reading, writing and fashion. I love the same things to
this very day. For your dad it was music. And judging from your current obsession
with your daddy's drum sticks and tapings of ACL Live, it might also be yours.
A hobby that you love is instant happiness at your finger tips whenever you want or need it. So when you find
yours, stick with it. (This excludes masturbation. Please have sex with someone
aside from yourself when age appropriate. *Also I just said 'tapings' which you will undoubtedly have no idea what I'm referring to when you're old enough to read this. Really dating myself here. We don't even 'tape' anymore - we hit a button on the remote. Maybe by the time you read this we will just think what we want to record and it will lodge itself in our brains somewhere for us to retrieve later at will.)
Look where you're going.
Literally and
figuratively. Your dad and I are both specialists at eating asphalt so I need
to drill this into your head early and often. Look where your feet are landing.
In the figurative sense, I don't expect you to have your life figured out by
your early teens (I always felt this pressure and hated it.) But start thinking
of a master plan for yourself. Do you want to travel? Do you want to move to a
small town in Idaho? Do you want to raise sheep? Run for governor? Play rock
shows? Be a barista? I don’t care what it is as long as it’s something you feel
in your bones you should be doing. And on that note…
Take pride in your job.
Whatever it is. Do
it right and represent yourself and your parents well. I look back at certain
odd jobs I did as a teen and feel horribly embarrassed. I had no pride. I was
lazy. And I will never forget it. It haunts me. So if you take something on –
do it right. Or don’t do it.
Open doors for ladies.
Car doors, elevator
doors, building doors, all doors. This will help you more than you will ever
know with the fairer sex. Wait - is ‘fairer sex’ not PC anymore? Fuck it. Also
don’t cuss. It’s ugly. Seriously. Like I said I’m still a work in progress.
* Also if you end up liking dudes I will still
love you. Though based on how much you flirt with anything with boobs I suspect you're a ladies' man. But still if not – I support you. All the way. Now let's go shopping!
That said, there's
no woman on earth worth letting treat you poorly. That's not a lady by the way.
This last one is the hardest to follow through
with. Don't judge people. You
don't have the right and nobody asked you. You don't know where they've been and how they got there. And if you can avoid making
judgments of others, maybe you'll get spared a little judgement along the way.
Above all remember this - you are loved beyond
measure. I love you. Your
daddy loves you. Your family loves you. God loves you. Hell even the devil loves you. You're better than
Christmas, first concerts, first kisses, cake, pie, ice cream and House of
Cards rolled into one. You will forever be the one who showed me that there is no limit to the amount of love a person can hold in their heart. My heart - tonight and every night since you were born - overflows with happiness, gratitude and awe.
Happy birthday Sawyer
Lee.
